I love being married. I love my husband. Being married, for me, has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

There’s only one thing.

I hate meeting cool, single guys at school who become my friends only to stop talking to me when they meet someone single. Most of the time I brush it off, but every once in a while it’s a real bummer. I understand how hanging out with a married woman is probably not a high priority for a single dude looking for a girl. I totally get that. But don’t tell me how cool I am and how neat it is to talk to me, then totally forget I exist when a single girl says hello. That’s kind of . . . you know . . . fucked up, as they say.

I have several male friends that I’ve known for ages who seem to only call me up when they’re single. It’s natural that a person would rely more on their friends when they’re not investing so much time in a significant other, but this behavior seems to only happen with my male friends. My female friends call me the same amount regardless of what’s going on. What’s up with that? Am I justified in feeling a little used, or am I over-reacting?

This feeling of being shoved aside for something better has so affected me that I almost never talk to single guys at school anymore. But, on general principals, I don’t believe in the concept of avoiding an entire group of people just because you’ve had a few bad experiences, and not all single men treat me like I’m a consolation prize. I have some awesome single male friends that I talk to regularly, but they tend to either be in a completely different age group or live across the country. I can’t think of a one single male friend that I talk to regularly who’s around my age and lives near me . . . hrmm.

Which is funny, because before I got married I was swimming in single male friends my age who lived near me. Even when I was engaged with my husband. Now . . . not so much. Now that I think of it, those single male friends who used to only call me when they were single haven’t called in a while.

Well, hell.

/end rant